When people encounter things, they have seven emotions and six desires. It's normal. The generation of emotions has its own rules and tracks. Like the train, it clangs and ignores people, regardless of people. At this time, you say who can easily control emotions, no less than a fool talking about dreams?

Therefore, human evolution to today, still in front of the mood stumble, embarrassed, from Wu Sangui's "one angry for the crown of the red face", to today's college students because of chicken hair small things, or even fierce fight, serious or even poison or kill people. All these show that in front of emotions, human beings are still very naive.

However, emotion is not elusive. On the contrary, human beings have made some researches on emotion. Emotion is a kind of psychological activity process and psychological motive force, which consists of multi-component, multi-dimensional structure and multi-level integration, and interacts with cognition for the survival adaptation of organism and interpersonal communication. As long as the composition, dimension, integration level, adaptability, communication function of emotion, and the relationship with cognition and personality are revealed, it is possible to explain the unique psychological phenomenon of emotion and pave a feasible way for further exploration.

Therefore, on the basis of this research, we can summarize some "techniques" for controlling emotions:

"First step"

Emotion is a psychological concept, so in order to control emotions, individuals must be able to understand their own emotions. It seems simple to know one's emotions, but it's not easy. Many people are often excited to do stupid things, and later regret: "I didn't know what happened, so I got excited."

Therefore, when an individual is in the mood, he should pay attention to remind himself: "what is my current mood?" For example, when you sneer at a friend for being late for a date, ask yourself, "why did I do this? How do I feel now? " If you notice that you are angry with your friend for being late again and again, you can deal with your anger better.

Many people think that "people should not have emotions", so they refuse to admit that they have negative emotions. We should know that people must have emotions. Depressing emotions does not eliminate emotions, but will bring worse results because of human repression. Feeling your emotions and being able to recognize them properly are the first step in managing your emotions.

"Step 2"

Express your emotions properly. In the case of a friend who is late for a date, you may be angry because he worries you. In this case, you can gently tell him: "you have not arrived after the appointed time, so I am worried about your accident on the road." Try to convey the feeling of "I'm so worried" to him, so that he can understand how his lateness will make you feel.

You use the right language to express your emotions. On the one hand, you let go of your emotions, which makes your psychology a lot easier. On the other hand, it helps your friends to know your emotions and give you appropriate responses.

However, it is worth noting that inappropriate expressions should be avoided in this process. What is inappropriate expression? For example, you accused him of being late for every date. Why don't you think about my feelings? When you blame the other party, it will cause the other party's negative emotions. The other party will become a hedgehog, busy defending against foreign attacks. There is no way to stand in your position and think about you. His response may be: "traffic jam on the road!" What do you think I don't want to be on time? " As a result, they began to quarrel, let alone have a good date.

Remember: expressing, not blaming, is the second step in managing emotions, and the key step in managing emotions!

"Step three"

Release emotions in a proper way. There are many ways to relieve emotions. Some people will cry bitterly, some people will find friends to complain, others will go shopping, listen to music, take a walk or force themselves to do other things so as not to always think of unhappiness. The worse way is to drink, drive fast or even commit suicide.

I want to remind you that the purpose of emotional relief is to give yourself a chance to clarify your thoughts, make yourself better, and make yourself more energetic to face the future. If the way to release emotions is to escape the pain temporarily, and then to bear more pain, this is not a suitable way.

Have uncomfortable feeling, should face bravely, think carefully, why so sad, angry? What can I do so that I won't repeat it in the future? What can I do to reduce my unhappiness? Will it do more harm? According to these points of view, you can choose the way that suits you and can effectively relieve your emotions, and then you can control your emotions, rather than let them control you!

Because of the pressure of society and life, depression has become a common problem. In fact, emotion and pressure can be controlled in some way, and appropriate methods can minimize the impact of the problem.

Here are some ways to adjust your depression:

1. Take part in exercise.

Physical exercise can make the human body produce a series of chemical and psychological changes. Suitable sports include jogging, outdoor walking, dancing, swimming and Taijiquan.

2. Visit relatives and friends.

Find a close friend who knows the truth and confides in him. This can reduce psychological pressure and pain.

3. Reflect on life.

When you are too painful to extricate yourself from one thing, you may as well have a big drink to yourself: can this pain solve the problem? Life is too short, how many things to do... Suddenly wake up, may be able to control the low mood.

4. Work hard.

Once you concentrate on your career and your work, you can forget your sadness and sorrow.

5. Forget the past.

It is necessary to reflect on yesterday, learn from it, and grasp today better, but we must lose and forget it later.

6. Optimistic fantasy.

Some people suffer a little setback, just like wearing thick sunglasses, and always think of the disadvantages. The way to overcome it is to be optimistic rather than negative.

7. Little desire.

Some people have peace of mind and little desire, so they naturally have less unnecessary worries and troubles.

8. Improve nutrition.

Rich vitamin B helps to improve mood. Such foods include wholemeal bread, vegetables, eggs, etc.

9. The stone of other mountains can be used to attack jade.

If all of the above are invalid, it's not suitable for you. It's OK. It's the wisest choice for you to ask a consultant to help you with professional matters.

Move up, learn some psychology, precipitate your thoughts, your emotions are your, "your territory is your decision!"